I think you should think about what your intentions are in sending this letter. Do you want a response? If you do, you need to be clear about that. No more ‘I’m going to say this and hope he reads my mind and knows I want a response’. If you don’t want a response, then say that as well. Expand on what he brought into your life and what you learned through your experiences with him; what to do in the future and what not to do; what to be grateful for having experienced and what you could do without next time. Make it count. Writing letters of closure like this, is less about the other person reading/hearing them, and more about your process of healing. Say the most that you can say. You are telling your soul these things while you are telling him. Each word is like a healing potion, closing up the breaks in your heart, in your psyche, in your aura. Write while touching the deepest parts of you that he got to. Everything in life is about us and improving ourselves. The other person is merely a vessel or vehicle for our growth; and the other person is always a mirror of some part of us that needed to come to the surface to be healed. Also, the deeper you go into your heart, the better chance you have of spitting some knowledge at him that he may be able to use to better himself. We have to come from a place of love for everyone in our lives…even the people that we might believe don’t deserve it because they hurt us. That’s where strength comes in...we have to have the strength to love the people that hurt us because they are some of our greatest teachers. They are on a path too, and the residue that you should want to leave in a person’s life, any person’s life, should be love. You are creating your legacy in the world with every interaction.
Posted by Cindy